Improve Your Coaching Impact through State Management and Leadership

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Welcome to the coaching clinic.

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Now, it's just me by myself today.

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Angie's gone and left me, but don't

worry, she will be back real soon.

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She just had to take a little break

from the show, but Angie will be

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returning for our next episode.

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I wanted to make sure that we

still connected with you this week

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and shared something important.

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So we're going to have a

really short episode today.

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Just going to talk very

quickly about state leadership.

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And if you're not sure what I

mean by that, then stay tuned.

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You won't want to miss it.

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Well, welcome to the show.

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It's so unusual for me to be

recording an episode of the

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coaching clinic without Angie.

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And we do have some great interviews that

we're lining up at the moment as well.

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So we're going to be changing

the format a little bit.

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Okay.

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To bring you some guests and

some different aspects and

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approaches in coaching as well,

beyond just myself and Angie.

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But this week, I thought I'd

take just a few minutes to

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talk about state leadership.

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Now we have on the show talked about state

management before, and these are related.

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State management is about

controlling your own emotional

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state or emotional regulation.

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If you like, might want to

put it in those terms for some

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people that will make more sense.

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And.

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Very often the state leadership is really

about deciding what states you need

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to be in and this may be more relevant

for you in group coaching and training

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Situations rather than one to one, but

I do think it still matters there as

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well In fact, I think it matters really

throughout the whole day one of the things

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I nearly always find is if I don't get

intentional about my Emotional state and

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how I'm feeling I tend to end up with

What I could call, resting, well, maybe

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we'll call it resting bothered face

rather than what I actually call it.

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But, just this look on my face where

I don't look particularly happy.

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I may not look sad, but I might, some

people think I even look angry and

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I'm not, I'm just not really anything.

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And that's usually because I haven't

really done any state management work.

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I'm just kind of letting myself

be me and go through my day.

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Whereas when I take control and

responsibility for that and how I'm

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showing up energetically and decide

how best I want to be now, how I would

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want to be showing up, how I want to be

experiencing my day that has a much bigger

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impact and influence on how I feel and

how I interact with other people as well.

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So I think this is something that.

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doesn't just come up for coaching

sessions, especially more like group work

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and live work, but also really in our

whole day to day life, that we can be far

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more intentional about our own emotional

states, our emotional regulation, and

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to make sure that we are looking after

that, that we're intentional about it,

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that we are not just going through our

lives In, in effect of what's going on

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around us, that we are deciding how we

want to be showing up, who we want to be

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today and each day to be achieving the

outcomes we want, because it's so much

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easier to get good stuff happening, to

have good reactions, good relationships,

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and good interactions and coaching calls

if we are in a good emotional place.

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Now, you would have heard Angie say

before on the show about how if you're

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really not there, if Stuff is going

on in your life and that's going to

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take you out of things and you just

can't pull things together for that.

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Then you are better to be honest about

that and cancel your coaching sessions,

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cancel your events, because it's You

don't, because you're just putting

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on an act and you're going to keep

finding yourself taken away by that.

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Like I want, I'm sure I mentioned this

in a show before about one time when I

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had, um, a notification that I should

never have even looked at when I was

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in the middle of a group coaching call

that my grandfather had died, um, I know

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it was not the best time for me to get

that news and it obviously distracted

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me for the rest of that call that was

all I was thinking about that we're

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gonna have to go to the funeral all the

stuff that starts coming up in in your

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head memories of my granddad and all

that not great when you're trying to

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be present with with an audience trying

to be present with your clients and

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so Yeah, that completely messed up my

own emotional regulation on that day.

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It's so easy to do.

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And if we're not aware of it, if we're not

being conscious and if we're not being,

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if we're not doing this with intention,

then we're leaving it all to chance.

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And so much of life is like that.

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What we don't do with

intention, we leave to chance.

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So I'm encouraging you to take

responsibility for your own state

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management and your state leadership.

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Because how we show up.

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The energy that we appear in in our lives

does have an impact and an influence

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on the people who we interact with and

engage with professional situations and

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even in non professional situations.

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So that's what I want

to leave you with today.

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We'll be back next week talking about

some interesting aspects of coaching

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and maybe how some people perhaps

accidentally end up getting into coaching.

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Coaching.

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You won't want to miss that.

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Angie will be back.

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We'll be in full flow and normal service

will resume at the coaching clinic.

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But for now this week, the doors to

the coaching clinic are closed and

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we'll hope to see you again very soon.

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Take care.